Trigger-happy (adj.): 1) having a tendency or desire to shoot a firearm before adequately identifying the target 2) tending to act rashly or without due consideration.
This is one of my favorite idioms lately. Why? Because making a decision rashly is just as irresponsible as shooting a gun in the wrong direction. Making a decision just because you feel under its pressure – too irresponsible. If you feel that you’re not ready, you are not ready for a reason. We all have moments or periods when we feel uncertain, lost and frustrated – when everything’s a total mess. There is a commonly heard and read wise advice: just make a move, take the next step and listen to your guts, your feelings. And this is a great advice indeed.. if you’re in that lucky situation, that you actually happen to know what the right thing to do is, or when you at least have a strong feeling about it, or when you know how you feel at all. But if you’re stuck in the middle of a “Can anybody tell me what the heck is going on?!” puddle, than it’s nearly impossible to know which way to go.
All we can do in situations like this (and what we HAVE TO do) is: to wait. Slow down. Just chill. Let’s invite uncertainty to our dirty puddle and spend some time with it. Talk with it. Say to it: I will do it, once I’ll be ready. And you can interpret this sentence literally as well. I think there’s nothing wrong with personifying our feelings and talking to them once in a while, or if you don’t want to feel like a total psycho – write to them. As if you were just chatting with a friend you haven’t seen in a while.
“Hi Uncertainty; welcome Fear; it’s been such a long time that I last saw you, Sadness.. I really appreciate that you found the time to stop by, but unfortunately I’m too busy with my friends, Serenity, Satisfaction and Happiness, so please: go fuck around somebody else. Someone who cares about you. Kisses!”
Don’t do something just to do something – just because somebody would judge you, let’s say. Take the pressure off of your shoulder and just relax. Sometimes this is the best we can do – the best decision. So please: don’t be trigger-happy.